How to take a man?
There is no need to explain that despite all gender differences, men and women need to learn to exist together, cooperate and build strong relationships. This article can help women better understand men, as well as learn to accept them as they are. And in order to better understand the features of the perception of the world by men, read our articles What do men love and How to understand male psychology.
How to take a man: strategy
- It has long been known that a person’s character is formed long before he is ready to enter into a relationship with the opposite sex. H. Freud, for example, believed that it was impossible to change character traits after six years of age. Of course, you can try to neutralize the negative features in a more mature age, but you need to understand that daily criticism and cavils will most likely not achieve this. Therefore, the first rule: do not criticize.
- Make compliments. Focus on the positive aspects of any actions. People are so arranged that when they receive praise they will try to earn it again.Men, of course, is also no exception.
- However, if you constantly just praise a loved one, there is a chance of losing interest to you. Have you ever wondered why the "stars" do not marry all the time on their fans? After all, this is a dream - undivided adoration. The fact is that life with a zealous fan makes it impossible to develop. Therefore, be your partner a faithful friend: help grow as individuals, gently suggesting in which direction changes are needed.
- Anyone always needs support. No matter how strong a man is, he needs a like-minded person. The one who will help develop and implement the most ambitious plans. To do this, often dream together, and then strive to fulfill dreams.
- Solve problems together. It will be easier for you to accept a person as he is, if you see his strengths, for this, act together and mark for yourself what your man’s approach is notable for.
- Grow yourself. If you are busy with your own growth, you will simply have no time to look for flaws in your partner. Read, among other things, the literature on the features of interpersonal relationships.Good articles on this topic are in the sections Psychology and Psychology of men on our site.
Why is it important to learn to take a man
Whatever the modern feminists shouting while fighting for the rights of women, it is necessary to recognize: it is much more difficult for a modern man to live in today's society than, for example, 100-200 years ago. Then, in social terms, a man was required to do one thing: to feed his family. Such a person a priori could count on respect and was considered successful. That is, he had to compete only with other men.
Modern women can fully compete with the man in terms of "food extraction", which means that the stronger sex has to compete with the ladies. At the same time, the society demands that the average family man be also a good father, a tender spouse, an au pair, and only in this case he is considered absolutely successful. One may argue that they also demand a lot from a woman, but she can choose, and it is unlikely that anyone will seriously condemn the mother of a large family for her failure in her career.
That is why a woman, who by nature has greater flexibility, it makes sense to learn to listen to the spiritual impulses of a man, thus helping him to be realized in life.Of course, if you decide that it is with this person you want to go hand in hand.