Why in our time women triumph after 40?
In some societies, the year is not counted by birthdays, and age itself as a figure does not matter - for example, among Australian Aborigines and among some Samoan tribes. Imagine if we also took such an approach as a basis, then much would change. Yes, someone would immediately be upset that there would be no more parties and celebrations on the occasion of the birthday, but in our culture, counting the age is not only annual fun, but also a lot of all sorts of duties. At 20, one cannot, at 30 — another, and at 50 (and strictly!), The third. It turns out that the age of a beautiful figure turns into a dictatorial limiting factor, which, if not forcing, then certainly strongly urges to direct your life according to one or another scenario. This is especially vivid when you make a history tour and learn, for example, at what age men and women were called old in the nineteenth century.Approximately in the very one in which we graduate from the institute and, on the contrary, we feel at the most comfortable level of our own youth.
Age puts more pressure on women than on men, when a reproductive issue is involved in a conversation on the topic “should / should”. That is, the list of "can" and "not" relative to age in women always goes longer than that of men. And the space for maneuver is much more modest: they say that by the time of 30–35 years old it is necessary to demonstrate career success and succeed in personal life, and it is better to create a family with several children. As a result, someone is trying to keep up with two hares, and someone up to 30 years old is concentrating on one thing, and later, if there is a desire, decides to “finalize” other areas of life.
And if we add here the achievements of reproductive medicine, which allow, without serious damage to health, to transfer the birth of the first child to a later stage of our life, it will turn out that we now live in the era of the triumph of 35–40-year-old women who at that age achieve what they wanted and dreamed about, be it a high management position, a family, or just the opportunity to live happily, have remote work and travel
In Europe, 35–40-year-olds are everywhere, because while 25-year-old youths are trying to find time to sleep between the 10-hour working day and the sessions of the next workshop of the university program for which they have for some reason signed up, this “new youth” leaves the office in 19-00, occupies terraces of urban cafes and opens Tinder to schedule a romantic adventure for the weekend. And moreover, there are as many girls living in such a rhythm as men, and, unlike the plot of the series “Sex and the City”, this profile is suitable not only for the well-to-do middle class, who can afford shoes for a few hundred dollars, but also the less affluent. The latter, again including because of the crisis, “transfer” their youth to a later time, when tuition paid off, the lumps on the first serious novels are full and now you can finally live a little for yourself. The Balzac age (by definition, from 30 to 40 years) is now the time when, like the heroine of Balzac, the Vicomtesse d’Eglemon, you can revel in your own independence, independence and freedom in the expression of feelings.
Noticethat young 20–25-year-olds are appearing less and less in magazines: their interviews are not interesting to anyone, because they are still not very familiar with life, and even more so who will believe their advice about skin and body care, even at this age After a noisy party with cocktails, wake up fresh like a peach, the next morning
It's quite another thing - a woman of about forty or even older who can share secrets, and her reasoning about men and about her love for her own body is to be disassembled into quotes. Finally, the gloss stops panic fearing adult women and accepts them with dignity (well, let it be that not without photoshop, because the last and 19-year-old models are not avoided). Or even pushing our own age range even wider. When Isabella Rossellini at 63 years old advertises Lancôme - not without wrinkles, but with the same radiant soulful look, then someone will certainly write that sixty are now the new forty. What, then, says the charismatic Bette Midler, who in her 70 poses for Marc Jacobs, or the Polish actress Helena Norovich, who in 80 years advertises elegant coats and suits of Bohoboco is better than any thin nymphet?
Someone is ironic about this trend, jokingly calling everything that happens “grandma's chic,” and we, on the contrary, state the death of such a diagnosis as old age. And for all: for 30-year-olds, 40-year-olds, 50-year-olds and older. No, the point is not at all that we have stopped aging, it’s just that we are slowly ceasing to make tragedy out of the sum of years and begin to receive undisguised aesthetic pleasure from growing up.